Has your warm Cancerian aura and compassionate nature ever gotten you in trouble? Or given you more than what you asked for?

This is what I mean.. It's almost like anybody we smile at with warm eyes, particularly the opposite sex, will get the wrong impression, assuming that what they see in my eyes is a desire for them, or that I may have feelings for them. I mean, deep down I know we have love for basically everyone under the sun, but sometimes it's misread as a 'come hither' sign, or a green light, for the opposite sex. And they usually proceed as so. It happens often. But what are we supposed to do? Look mean at everybody so they won't be attracted to us?

Me being a Cancer, I can't resist at least hearing someone out and being compassionate, even when I'm not attracted to them. Tell me I'm not alone. People will claim later on that I lead them on. But what am I supposed to say “I don’t want you, please leave me alone?” Even when I say "let's be friends" they usually stick around just to change my mind, seeing it as a challenge.

What's even worse is that I feel guilty for having let them down. And as I look back on a few "acquaintances" (I won't say relationships, cuz that's not what I wanted). I think I may have let their feelings for me confuse what I was actually feeling for them. I let them turn universal love into romantic love for a little while, out of good ole compassion.

Looking back, there have been quite a few that I have continued to talk to because I didn't want to hurt their feelings, ultimately. Not that it was consciously done at the time, I just had that old instinct not to disappoint them, and thinking “hey, I can at least be nice”= )

Bad Idea when that’s not what they want and you know that’s not what they want. In that way, I’ve got myself into some mishaps, and I definitely have wasted a lot of time for me and them. Tell me I'm not alone.
Knowing this now I kinda handle it differently, but still what a resolution!

How much trouble has all the openness and compassion that we posses gotten you into with the opposite sex? Hopefully we can share past or maybe even current stories.........