i need more details. is he currently "in his shell" so to speak? or does he do this after you fight? what's the context of his behavior?

don't address his behavior directly, that just annoys us. we see ourselves and we know what we're doing, but we don't like people talking about it. sending him an occasional message that you're thinking of him is great. stop calling and text messaging so much... slowly pull away and you'll see him come roaring back if he's really interested. then, well, you'll see our clingy side come out when we think we're about to lose what we want.

also, we don't like it when everything is kind of forced on us... while coming on strong is nice, our "courtship" (esp. with non-water signs) is typically a slow one.

so my advice for right now is just chill a little... he'll come around. we just need time when we're on the retreat.

I am going through the exact same thing with the cancer man I'm seeing. The first night we slept together, he dropped me off the next morning and said he didn't want me to go. He wrote me all day that day, saying how he had a big smile on face, etc. He's been slowly dissipating the emails and text messages--only to wish me a good morning.

He's so incredibly sweet when we're together, but lately he's been slowing down when we see each other. He'll caress me but he seems to be going backwards. I mean, I have to kiss him for us to get going. Even then, I almost feel like I'm forcing myself on him. I'd get the picture if he didn't send me messages once a day, every day. But I'm the one that says I miss him; I'm the one that seems to be making all the effort now. I mean, why would a guy be so insistent only to deflate now that he's got my undivided attention? I guess it's really hard for us too because we live about an hour away from each other...but still. Even though I'm sure he's been with lots of women, he doesn't strike as the kind of guy that will mess around with my feelings just to sleep with me. I've never heard of a Cancer man being that way. Perhaps I'm wrong.

I'm just confused because he first accused me of being secretive, etc. He came on so strong and I was elusive and reluctant to go on a date. He was really really persistent. He said he wanted to take things to the next level, etc. And now that we're sleeping together I think its him thats secretive because sometimes he just doesn't respond to my messages; Now that he's got my full attention, he's slowing down? I don't know what to think, really. I'm thinking its time to retreat into my shell to protect myself. I can't bear to be hurt again.

TO ALL THE GIRLS wanting cancer men

is it just me or do you expect a difference from a cancer man? on all the tribes cancer or not the same questions are popping up. men telling them they mean the world to them and then disappearing.

this isn't about cancers this is about men and women.

men know that women want to believe they are the world to them.


let him prove it before you believe it (this is what cancers girls do)




ps, if you weren't answering someone would you like them to msg you ever fucking day till they talked to you? no you would think they are a stalker. stop making men your world they don't make you theirs.