Ok, I know what you're saying, but I just had to stand up for myself. I couldn't bring myself to tell him this because he just completely takes me over when I was about to tell him something about our "supposed" relationship; but I sent him an email. I have modified some words in case he ever finds this tribe.

"I think we are better off being friends--if you'd like. This is not coming out of thin air. It's been a long time coming, and reality just keeps smacking me in the face that you want nothing more with me than a sexual relationship. I've been far more patient with you than with any man that's been in my life; and you've run out of "give him time" chances.

You are not giving me what I need from a relationship, and keeping me at arm's length for almost X (over 6) months makes me feel like just your perennially degrading "booty call". If all I wanted was to get laid, I certainly would not have waited around this long. Just a few things to note:
• I am not ok with just seeing you, at bare minimum, once every 2 weeks
• I am not ok with coming over to your place or going out only when it is dark outside. Makes me feel like you're embarrassed to be seen with me in the daylight.
• I am not ok that you always disappear from Friday through Monday morning.
• I am definitely not ok that you have all the freedom to decide if you want something more with me or not and you haven't given me the chance to make that judgment about you because you keep me just close enough to acquiesce to your schedule.
• I loathe communicating with you via text and email (that is. Ever pick up a phone to wish me a good day?

I've made it far too easy for you to be with me, and you take me for granted--making me feel like I'm just an afterthought to your life. So there you go: no drama, no fighting, clean break.

I'm a good woman, you know it, and I deserve to be loved."


Cancers, I need to know your opinions on what I sent him. Remember, I've had enough. He pursued me so fervently until he got my attention, and since then kept going hot and cold on me. Of course, super hot when he wanted to get some. I still hate him for pushing for my attention when I clearly told him not to mess with my feelings. And I'm sorry to say that if I would see him walking down the street, I would not even look at him twice because even our dress styles are completely different: I try to dress like a classy grownup with occasional rocker-chick days. He dresses up the way my ex spouse dressed, WHEN WE WERE IN HIGH SCHOOL. I probably shouldn't nitpick but I'm still really raw. Why play with my emotions when you KNOW I'm vulnerable, when I ask you to be upfront with me?I mean, the guy is over 30...sheesh. And he never wanted to fight, never wanted to argue. He would just hide behind his stupid little phone and work email whenever I confronted him about anything or called him on his shit.

Ok, I'm getting bitter here.